Ven. Master,

I am a Buddhist disciple who also received the Five Precepts. Unfortunately, I have not been able to keep the Non-deviant Sex precept. ​
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I simply cannot control my urges and frequently have sexual relations with others. Both sides seek sexual gratification, not love. I am still single. ​

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Ven. Master,

I am a Buddhist disciple. I received the Five Precepts a long time ago. Because I did not know how to follow the Precepts properly, I violated the Deviant Sex precept. ​

Since I realized my mistake, I felt very repentant and worried. Please compassionately rescue me. I am residing in Chicago and I would come to your temple to meet with you if you allow me. I am very grateful for your consideration.
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BJ

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I am 19 years old. I saw a video on the grave consequences of violating the deviant sex precepts.
I realize that I violated the precept and wish to repent. Would I still need to undergo the retributions?
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PVT

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Ven. Masters,

I married a woman who seems to be of the world: she seems to enjoy oral sex. I have yet to give her my consent but she has dropped hints that she would definitely get satisfaction elsewhere if she is left unsatisfied. ​

May I ask: Is it OK to have oral sex with one’s wife? The reason I ask is because we already have children and to divorce would not be good karma either.
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NVC

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Na Mo Fundamental Teacher Shakyamuni Buddha:

Please kindly instruct me!

It hurts me deeply to talk about this.

One day, a monk that I really admired the most embraced me. As I was still stupefied, he asked me whether or not I was attracted to him. I immediately answered that I was not. He instantly apologized to me. Afterward, I thought about it and told myself that I was not interested in him and yet he chose to embrace the dust and he was not actually embracing my body.

Ven. Master, is my thinking correct? Or am I just fooling myself?

Thank you for your help
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LHM

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Ven. Master,

If I have sex with the person I love, is it a violation of the Deviant Sex Precept? If so, how do I repent for it? Please kindly instruct me.

Emituofo,
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HP

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Ven. Master,

I have two questions:

1. If a lay Buddhist disciple masturbates, is that a Precept violation? Is that repentable? Is masturbation a violation of the Deviant Sex Precept?
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2. When I recite sutras, I still have a lot of false-thinking and that makes me very afflicted. Am I creating offenses because I cannot control my thoughts?

Please kindly instruct me so that I can better understand Precepts.
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Emituofo,

JK

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Namo Emituofo.

Ven. Master,

I am a Buddhist disciple living in Da Nang [Vietnam].
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I have always believed in the power of reciting “Emituofo” and especially in lofty and revered sanghans. Please help me discern whether what I am about to ask you could arise from my stupidity or from my loss of faith in Buddhism.

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Ven. Master:

Is masturbation a violation of the deviant sex precept? Please kindly instruct me.

Thank you,
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K

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Amitabha Buddha!
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Ven. Master! I have several questions regarding Taking Refuge and the Five Precepts. Please kindly and compassionately instruct me.

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Greetings to you, Master! I have a few questions.
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In the Universal Chapter [of the Lotus Sutra], Shakyamuni Buddha says that those who recite GuanYin’s name will be able to eliminate greed, hatred and stupidity… Therefore, how should I go about reciting her name in order to achieve those objectives? I am not particularly worried about hatred and stupidity, however, my sexual desires are particularly strong. 

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I am a 21 year old student. I have studied Buddhism for half a year so far. Since I understand Buddhism, I realize that I have created so many offenses… For example, I liked to kill living beings when I was young… When I was 14 years old (I was in the seventh grade), through the TV programs I saw many sexy images and naturally wanted to see more of such images.

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Ven. Master:

I am a Buddhist who resolved to receive the Five Precepts. I am concerned about the correct behavior I should have to observe the Deviant Sex Precept. I did learn about the Five Precepts but unfortunately my knowledge is rather limited. I thought that the Deviant Sex Precept applied to married people only. Upon reviewing my actions, I think I violated the Deviant Sex Precept with a male friend who also comes to the temple but who has not received the Five Precepts.

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Ven. Master:

There are many interpretations of deviant sex on the internet, which makes me confused. Please kindly clarify the following for me:
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1.The Deviant Sex infraction only applies to those who received the Five Precepts is that correct?

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Ven. Master:
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Is homosexuality a violation of the deviant sex precept? If so, what are the consequences if one is determined to follow the Buddha’s teachings?

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I am an adherent of the Reciting the Buddha’s Name School. I have not yet taken refuge but is it possible to receive the Five Precepts? Right now, I try to observe the Five Precepts. I started a relationship before I decided to observe the precepts and I am afraid that I still occasionally violate the Deviant Sex Precept. What should I do? Please kindly give me your advice. 

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I don’t know what offenses I had done in my past lives that have caused me to carry a female body but function like a male in this current life. I possess male personality traits. I often fall in love with females. All of my intimate relationships have failed miserably and painfully. We are rejected by society. Families provide no support. We hesitantly live our daily lives.

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Dear Master,

I have been a Buddhist for quite a few years and I enjoy learning Buddhism a lot! It has given me a new direction in life, and I sincerely wish to be reborn in Western Pure Land of Amitabha. I’ve taken the 5 precepts few years ago but unfortunately I can’t uphold it fully. I have a girlfriend who is also a Buddhist and a vegetarian, but because of today’s society we can’t maintain a pure live. For me, I feel disgraced and ashamed because a true Buddhist would not involve in any misconduct until married. Moreover, I wear a precept-sash when attending a Buddhist retreat. At the moment, I’m very confused and discombobulated. Master, please direct me on what I should do and approach this? Am I creating bad karma by wearing a sash when I should not?

Amituofo
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MR, SJ, California