Homosexuality

Question:
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I don’t know what offenses I had done in my past lives that have caused me to carry a female body but function like a male in this current life. I possess male personality traits. I often fall in love with females. All of my intimate relationships have failed miserably and painfully. We are rejected by society. Families provide no support. We hesitantly live our daily lives.

Currently, I have a girlfriend who loves me dearly but she still can’t go against the wishes of her family. She is filial to her parents. We live in tears and pain. Her parents guard her even more after our love was revealed to them.

What should I do now? What should she do now? What can I do to erase my karmic obstructions so that I can live happily? How can we resolve such a weird situation? There are plenty of similar cases out there.

What offenses stop a person from having a body and mind whereby a male body functions like a male and vice versa? Why is there sometimes a male body with a female mind and vice versa?
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QNHP

Answer:

I am sorry for your pain and suffering.

I wish people could learn to live and let live.

It’s not just that your family and friends have a problem with your personal choice; I would not be surprised that they too are suffering a lot because they feel that they are “losing face”.

From the Buddhist perspective, it’s all due to cause and effect. You and your loved used to create afflictions for each other and now continue to do so this lifetime.

Therefore, you should learn to take advantage of the various wonderful Buddhist Dharmas to repent of your past karmic offenses. Continue to recite the Buddha’s name, bow repentance, go to the temple to ask for help to repent. This will alleviate suffering.

Furthermore, the cause for your unusual choice for partners can be traced back to having excessive sexual desires in prior lives. I personally have nothing against your individual preferences but feel obligated to point out to you that indulging in it will plant causes for further suffering this lifetime as well as future lifetimes.

Ordinary people are so short sighted. They can only see this lifetime. They fail to see the connection of their actions and behavior to their past lives and how the influence they could have on future lives.

If you are sincere about seeking ways to end the vicious cycle, then you should seek out a good knowing adviser who can help provide guidance to get you out of pain and suffering.
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Best wishes.